Job Searching: There Are No Maps, But There Are Guides

Do you ever think you are lost in time, trying and trying to make something happen with no visible results? Do you need reassurance?

It may be reassuring to know there is a “characteristic shape” to transitions. First you have an ending (often with ensuing chaos). Then there’s a “neutral zone” where you feel frustrated and scared about not knowing where you’re going or how you’re going to get there. Then the new beginning comes out of the activities you engage in during this neutral zone, or what I call desert time.

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Networking Ethics (or Why Sales Often Won't Work in a Networking Environment)

please indulge me as this gets a bit deeper into networking than I (or anyone else I've studied yet, for that matter) typically goes. Almost everyone is familiar with some phrasing of The Golden Rule. It is most commonly written as "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you", and the idea is ancient. 

However, unless you have studied religion or philosophy, you may not know about the various formulations (alternative phrasings) of this rule, and it occurs to me they can help us better understand how to relate to others in our networking activities.

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Three Networking "Disconnects" and some corrections to them - Jeff Hexter

Lately, I've encountered some situations where I noticed some "disconnects from reality" regarding networking. I have sorted them into three broad categories, and I want to discuss each one. Those categories are:

1. "I hate networking..." or "I hate networking, but I like building relationships..."
2. I'm here to sell (or get a job, or meet an investor...) but no one here is buying (or hiring, or investing...)
3. Who am I to do a 1-2-1 meeting with?

What to do?

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You Don’t Have to Sell Yourself: How to Use a Networking Referral Guide

To get a good job, you do not have to sell yourself.  Needs-meeting is what you are after – yours and others.’ You are offering to help those you meet support their own and others’ needs getting met.  A Profile is a tool to a) help you think through what you want to do, what you’re best at, b) see the value of it, c) work out how to communicate it and d) help others see the value and help you communicate it to others beyond the conversation you are in. When you are available to be found to fill certain needs, you can be offered the job of your dreams.

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